Ooligan Press

A Family, Maybe By Lane Igoudin



A gay couple’s quest to adopt their foster kids in the early 2000s becomes a spiral of legal, political, and personal challenges.

In his candid and emotional memoir, Lane Igoudin shows the human side of public adoption as he and his partner Jonathan seek to adopt their foster daughters from the Los Angeles County child welfare system. Desperately wanting to be fathers, they enter into a complicated legal process that soon becomes a tangle of drama-filled birth parent visits and children’s court hearings. Lane and Jon spend years not knowing whether they will be able to officially adopt the girls, or if the county will reunite the sisters with their birth mother, Jenna, a teenager in the state’s custody herself.

The stress of the foster-to-adopt process, compounded with the mounting, nationwide struggle for LGBTQ+ equality, erodes the sense of peace in Lane and Jon’s home. Still, the girls attach themselves deeply to their adoptive parents, while their dads do all they can to give them the best lives possible. Heartwarming moments with the kids and relatable first-time-parent woes become bittersweet as Lane realizes how much he and Jon have built—and how much they could lose. A Family, Maybe is a moving story about dedication, heartache, and love.

About the Author

Lane Igoudin is a writer, activist, and professor of English and linguistics at Los Angeles City College. He has written extensively on adoption and parenting, and his work has been featured on Adoption.com, FamilyEquality.org, Bay Windows, The Forward, Lambda Literary Review, and Parabola Magazine. As a sociolinguist, he has published book chapters with major academic presses, and was a recent Andrew W. Mellon fellow with the Humanities Division of UCLA. Lane is a member of the LGBTQ and College Creative Writing caucuses of the Association of Writers and Writing Programs. He lives in Long Beach, California, with his husband and their children.

Product details

  • ISBN-13: 9781947845459
  • Publisher: Ooligan Press
  • Publication date: February 13, 2024
  • Format: Trade Paperback (also available in ebook)
  • Product dimensions: 5.5″ x 8.5″